Oh tell me the truth about love!

[london1967]

The week-end wasn't a completely joyous affair.

On Sunday we received the visit of one of our gay neighbours/friends just before he loaded his stuff in Lynne's car and moved away.
And with that act, a long relationship (15 years) was over.

He was very stressed and said that he still loved his other half but that he had decided to move out. Oh, we are going to miss him!
In the next few days, we should see his partner too: it's going to be probably even harder for him, especially as he's on his own in what was their house.

We have also learned today that two of Adrian's oldest friends (another gay couple) have split and one of them moved out yesterday. They had been together for over 23 years. Again, the guy that left said that he still loved his partner but wanted more independence.

It's all very sad. And it's upsetting to think that you may still love someone but not being able to share your life with them.

Comments

[tilia-tomentosa.livejournal.com]

Still loving somebody but wanting more independence is something new to me. I'm used to straight people getting divorced because they can no longer stand each other (or worse situations).

[london1967.livejournal.com]

I always wonder how it happens.
Whether one just wakes up one morning loathing their partner or if it is a gradual process.

[tilia-tomentosa.livejournal.com]

Definitely a gradual process. A slow accumulation of disappointment... until it reaches the critical mass. And sometimes no one is really "bad"; the spouses are just badly matched and realize it too late. And there are those desperate efforts to preserve the marriage "for the children" that only make things worse.

[london1967.livejournal.com]

It's a real shame that sometimes people realise it when it's too late :-(

[tilia-tomentosa.livejournal.com]

It was very typical of my generation and older generations in Bulgaria: having children too soon, and then trying to preserve the marriage for their sake. And people used to get married very young, which didn't help either.